Funeral Etiquette
Many people worry about what to say or do when attending a funeral, reposing, removal, burial, or cremation service. It is natural to feel unsure. The most important thing is to be respectful, kind, and present.
Attending a Reposing
If the family has arranged reposing, you may attend during the times listed on the death notice. You can offer sympathy to the family, say a prayer, spend a quiet moment, or simply sign the condolence book if one is available.
What to Say
Simple words are often best:
“I’m very sorry for your loss.”
“Thinking of you and your family.”
“They will be very fondly remembered.”
You do not need to say a lot. Your presence is often enough.
What to Wear
Dark or modest clothing is usually appropriate, unless the family has requested something different. Some celebrations of life may be less formal, but respectful dress is always suitable.
Phones and Photography
Phones should be turned off or kept silent during services. Photography or video should only be taken if the family has clearly said it is appropriate.
Children at Funerals
Children may attend funerals where the family feels it is appropriate. It can be helpful to explain gently what will happen before they arrive.
Respecting Family Wishes
Some funerals are private or family-only. If the notice says private, please respect the family’s wishes.